As a minister’s wife, I think you should stick to your decision. Baptism, at least in our denomination, is a promise to raise a child in the church with the help of your community. If you are not part of the community, and not planning to raise the child in the church, baptism is inappropriate.

Some grandparents and parents act like it’s a spell or shield of some sort against evil. It is not. And even if your inlaws are able to take your child to Mass once in a while (with your permission!) to let them see what one of their choices is, baptism is not a requirement of attendance.

In terms of choosing, our children were baptized and confirmed in the church. They were asked to come to church as a part of being a family. As adults, neither shares the beliefs they were raised with, nor attends worship, and we reluctantly, but firmly respect their wishes.

Your wishes should be respected, especially since baptism is a ritual, sacramental vow that you take.